Archive for January, 2010
What Do You Want?
Tuesday, January 26th, 2010
I remember the first time someone asked, and I felt like they truly wanted to know. It was like they had thrown a glass of ice-cold water in my face.
You mean, there is a step beyond complaining? You mean, I can not only ask for, but actually receive, what I want?
A whole new world opened to me. A world I couldn’t trust, wasn’t prepared for, and suspected might do more harm than good if I succumbed to the temptation to answer. Then, even when I gave myself permission to answer, I discovered I had no words. Whatever age or time in my life I learned that we rarely get what we want, and when we do, it probably comes with a higher price tag than we’d want to pay — the damage had been done.
I no longer had a voice for my desires. In fact, I didn’t even know I had desires. I was aware only of a vague sense of yearning…a restless sort of discontent…and of course, an insatiable craving for things I was sure I couldn’t have.
Making Everyday Life A Sensual Life
Saturday, January 23rd, 2010
This morning, I faced traffic court in Philadelphia. This is a city whose parking authority is so intense, so unforgiving, so legendary…they have their own reality TV series. And I am a woman who detests bureacracy, challenges authority, and is prone to sharing my opinion at inopportune times…like in front of a judge, let’s say. Which could [...]
My Tiger-Inspired Podcast
Tuesday, January 19th, 2010
I tried to sidestep the issue of Tiger Woods…really, I did. And I was successful…until yesterday.
I simply couldn’t take one more “Men will be men” post and I jumped in. Then, of course, 10 more people jumped in after me…and there I was. Right where I swore I wouldn’t be. Down in the dirt, wrestling over the issues that golf’s fallen hero has stirred up.
He might as well have taken a 9-iron to a beehive.
The Many Faces of Desire
Wednesday, January 13th, 2010
I’ve become convinced that the marketers who name perfumes and clothing lines and jewelry collections Desire don’t know the first thing about desire. To them, she is some one-dimensional sex-kitten-come-siren who inspires flames of passion in her wake. She is lust personified. She is ravenous…bold…and takes what she wants.
Oh, if only it were true!
The Sensual Life Officially Launches Today!
Monday, January 11th, 2010
For months now, people would say, “I love your website!” I would politely say thank you — but deep down, I knew — it was just a placeholder for the real deal.
And today, I can finally welcome you to the real deal!
The Sensual Life is now as much a concrete “place” as it is an idea and lifestyle. On these virtual pages and posts, you’ll find ways to enjoy (and maybe even reclaim) your own sensuality, and share it more freely and playfully with others.
When Being Big is Over-Rated
Monday, January 11th, 2010
She’s rolling her eyes, asking for a glass of wine, until finally, he drags her onto it, puffy-skirted evening dress and all. Awkward at first, she makes a few tentative bounces and tries to get down. But he holds her hands, bounces with her, and makes it safe and fun for her to play again. And, big surprise…she also falls in love with him.
Happy New Year from The Sensual Life
Friday, January 1st, 2010
If you have been patient…waiting for something, maybe you don’t even know what…feeling like something good is right around the next corner…I want to invite you to make today the day you’ve been waiting for.
After all, what better day? The first of the new year, the new decade.